It's been six insane months since Fin was born and everything lightened. Every day has been so full of rollercoaster emotions--exhaustion, elation, absolute pride, shame, happiness, despair. The palate of feelings I've experienced is huge. I've been in great denial for about six weeks about how I'm really doing, however, and it's time to come clean.
I love being a mom. I love Finley and I am happy to spend all day every day with her. I feel like a success in that department so far, because I have a bouncing, healthy, beaming baby at my side all the day.
But as Lindsay? I am struggling. I feel stressed, anxious, down, and when I look in the mirror I hardly recognize myself. It's the weirdest thing to feel such disconnect one minute and such a bond with my daughter the next.
I expected the high I felt to come down, but I had hoped it would stop at normal, not plummet below sea level.
I could sure use a cuddle right now. Where's that Fin?
3.6.10
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I know what you mean. I love being a mom of three beautiful girls, but there are times that I feel I've lost "Jennie". I do things for my children and I love it, but I don't do much for me because I love it. I don't know if that makes sense. I wouldn't want life without my girls because being a mom is so amazing and I love their personalities, but what happened to me?
Lindsay please plan a day a week just for you, do whatever you want, or need. I will love finney almost as much as you. If you knew you could plan on the same day every week. You might be able to find some of yourself. I think it could help. Love, Laura
Laura...ROCKS. And no, this isn't Laura. But take her up on it. Wish I could do the same.
You must not try to do everything yourself. You are the sole provider of this baby with no partner to help you.
Please take the help that is offered to you! You have a wonderful supportive family with so many people that love that little babe.
You are a wonderful mother to "that Fin" and simply need some YOU time.
Do it.
It will be good for both you and the baby.
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