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On Crushing My Daughter's Free Will To Reject My Love

How do you make your child feel your love? And by make, I mean force?
Some days I wish I could surgically insert it into her.


I tell her I love her a thousand times a day. I kiss her cheeks until they chap. I snuggle her when she's asleep and whisper it in her ear, hoping that subconsciously it will burn into her brain.
But I guess realistically there's no way of guaranteeing your child will feel loved.
Seems inevitable that they will have moments of unworthiness and doubt. I did sometimes. I do sometimes.
I can't stand thinking she will feel at one point that I have never loved her, that I am the enemy, and that I hold her back. I want to make sure she feels strong enough to run away...
...but know she can always come back safely and nothing will have changed.
I am working on a love/confidence microchip that we insert into our children as we speak. Until then, Finley, I loved you once. I love you always. At one point, you couldn't get enough of me. I held you up, never pulled you back. You won't remember, but by then the microchip will be finished and this won't be a problem.

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